The world of online dating is definitely not for the faint of heart. If you are single and haven’t ventured into that world yet please read on. If you have dated from there please feel free to read on, just because you can or should be able to relate and will feel part of a big online dating family.
Ok lesson one: Creating Your Profile. Try to think of your profile as a Macy’s window. You want to show the shiny exciting things that highlight your best features. This of course starts with pictures. (Men usually just look at pictures) Your pictures need to be recent, and they need to be of you doing fun things. Travel, dinners with friends, bike rides, beach, boating. And not all selfies, you need full figure pictures of your self. Remember you are marketing yourself (not selling yourself, that’s illegal). Men, women do not need to see shirtless pics, or you in your wife beater, chilling on the couch. Funny difference between men, and women selfies. Women take their pictures up high (hides our chins) and men take their pictures down low (right up their nostrils). Sometimes I think men are trying to hide their phone under the steering wheel while taking a picture of themselves. This angle is not good boys. Try straight on or maybe a little higher. But girls, you using your go go gadget arms to shoot super high pic’s isn’t fair either. Yes it may slim you down, but remember the goal is to actually meet someone, they are going to see the “real” you at a straight on angle.
Ok moving on to what you want to say in your profile. I can attest that this doesn’t really seem to matter. Many won’t even read most of what you write. And the ones that do read it, never remember it when they start messaging you. I have tried many different variations. I have put everything out there, what I want, who I am, that I have kids, that I want to find happily ever after, that I don’t want a hook up, or a threesome. But I think we all pretty much look at the same things. Pictures, height, job, kids, smoking or non smoking and relationship status or what they are looking for. So my non expert reccomendtion is this; tell about yourself briefly, you have kids, (it’s important) hobbies, what you do for fun, etc. Next put what you are looking for. A long term relationship, just getting back to dating and you don’t know, FWB, side piece, threesome, sister wife, friends to do things with, in town for one night and want to hook up, (I’ve seen it all) whatever it may be. Just be honest with what your intentions are. This is mostly meant to see if you have things in common. If you put everything in the profile you will have nothing to discuss on the first meet.
Well that’s all I can think of on the profile side of things, next blog will be about the messaging side of it. Who messages first, when and how to respond, why you should or shouldn’t respond. Till then, wishing you health, wealth, and happiness!